By Diane E. Lykes, LCSW 

There is a secret when it comes to finding love. It won't surprise you when you hear it, but it is often forgotten.
For some, looking for love has become synonymous with looking for a job. Many people are working very hard to find their perfect match. Sometimes it may feel as though we have switched over from Monster.com to Match.com. However, for a lot of people, this has led to endless dates that lead nowhere. Until we learn the secret for a lasting relationship, speed dates, blind dates or Internet dates will not result in a 1ong-term relationship.
Consider pausing for a moment to learn more about this age-old secret for finding love.  Perhaps you will discover that you no longer have to work so hard to find love...because love will find you.

The secret
Simply stated, the secret is this: When you are strong, confident and happy, you attract love. When you feel good about who you are and what you have to offer, you attract a healthy partner who appreciates and values you. In this healthy place, you no longer have to search for love. Self-love emanates from you and people are completely drawn to your positive energy.
Unfortunately, the reverse is also true. When your heart has been broken, when you are living in fear that you will be hurt again and when you don't love yourself you will emanate negative energy. This type of energy attracts unhealthy partners or sends the good ones packing after a few dates.

Finding your "MoJo"
"What's the worst thing that can happen to a quarterback? He loses his confidence."    --Terry Bradshaw
So, how do you go from projecting negative energy to radiating confidence? The answer lies in serious self-evaluation. You will need to fully understand the "blocks" you may be putting in the way of relationship success.
To help accomplish this, try answering these questions to get a better sense of your "Mo Jo"- that magnetic quality that attracts others to you. 

The top 10
1.  What are you looking for?
2.  What is holding you back?
3.  What can you improve in yourself?
4.  How will you accomplish this one step at a time?
5.  What messages are you sending out?
6.  What does your body language say when you are on a date?
7.  Are you a complainer?
8.  Do you talk about all your past relationships and broken hearts?
9. Do you feel that you are not worthy of love...that you are not good enough?
10. What messages has your mind taped and is replaying over and over that keeps you completely stuck?

Getting unstuck
If you are feeling stuck try some of these suggestions to get your mind moving in the right direction:
Act happy be happy: Researchers have found that just by acting happy and confident, you will become more happy and self-assured. How does this work? What you radiate to others is reflected back to you. People treat you with higher regard and want to be around you. This has a huge impact on your self-worth. Ask yourself this important question...how would your life change if you choose to not have low self-esteem?
Practice self-forgiveness: Forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Acknowledge what you did or what was done to you and move on. Really believe that whatever has happened is over.
Let go of the past: Know that whatever it is that you want, you deserve it. And you can have it when you stop believing that the past can control your life.
Take time to heal: If your heart needs time to heal, nurture it. Instead of looking for someone to take away your pain, take some time before entering the dating world to strengthen yourself. You will have a much better chance of attracting a healthier person in the long run. Exercise and get enough sleep to improve your mood and help you look and feel better.
Single and fabulous: Finally, are you telling yourself that you need to have a partner in order to be happy? The truth is that you do not need another person to "complete" you. You are complete just as you are and you have every opportunity to be happy right now. When you take care of yourself everyday and fill your life with rich experiences you will find that you stop searching.

So where do you find love?
Attracting someone means having the confidence and self-esteem to invite love and romance into your life. Take those first and difficult steps to look deep inside your heart.  As you begin to feel stronger and happier, you will spread your positive energy all around you and you will meet people wherever you go. And, you just might find that this road to self-discovery also leads to love.
Diane Lykes is a Principal of Synergy Counseling Associates in Albany where she specializes in individual and couples counseling, educational training and clinical consultation.  Synergy is a unique counseling practice providing compassionate, solution-oriented treatment for adults, children, adolescents and families.  She can be reached at 466.3100 or lykes-synergy@nycap.rr.com. This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it  

It's the weekend and you have a whole list of household chores to do. Oh, we know you'd rather be golfing or playing tennis or watching TV, but keeping your home in good shape is important. Your home may be the biggest investment you will ever make. Taking good care of it with regular maintenance is necessary to maintain its value and ensure it will provide a comfortable, safe shelter for you and your family for a long time.
Here is a home maintenance quiz that will test your maintenance knowledge. While this quiz does not address every home maintenance project, it does provide helpful tips and reminders for chores you may have overlooked.

1. How often do forced-air furnace filters need to be changed?
At least every three months during the heating season.

2. What part of the faucet usually needs to be replaced when you have a water leak?
The washer.

3. Should you run hot or cold water through your garbage disposal?
Cold water.

4. How often should the moving parts of garage doors be oiled?
Every three months.

5. What tools can you use to unclog your drains?
A plunger and a plumber's snake.

6. What tool can be used to unclog a toilet?
Coil spring-steel auger.

7. What faucet part needs to be cleaned every three to four months?
Aerator--the screen inside the end of the faucet.

8. What can you use for traction on icy sidewalks, steps and driveways?
Cat litter or sand--never use salt because it damages the pavement.

9. Where should the fire in your fireplace be built?
On the andirons or grate, never on the fireplace floor.

10. What will prevent soot and add color to the fire in your fireplace?
Throw in a handful of salt.

11. Where should your firewood be stored?
Outside, away from your house and not directly on the ground.

12. What helps keep unpainted concrete floors easy to keep clean?
Concrete sealer.

13. What should you use to clean unpainted concrete floors?
A solution of 4 to 6 tablespoons of washing soda in a gallon of hot water. Mix scouring powder to the solution for tough jobs.

14. When can you clean hardwood floors with water?
When the floors have a polyurethane finish.

15. Do hardwood floors need to be waxed?
Hardwood floors that do not have a polyurethane finish probably will need to be waxed periodically. Use liquid or paste "spirit" wax.

16. What is the best polish for vinyl floors?
Water emulsion wax.

17. When is basement condensation at its maximum?
In new homes because gallons of water went into the concrete of basement walls.

18. Why should noisy water pipes be fixed promptly?
The condition that causes noisy pipes may be accompanied by vibration that can cause fittings to loosen and leak.

19. Why should frozen pipes be thawed slowly?
Frozen pipes should be thawed slowly to prevent the formation of steam, which could cause the pipe to burst.

20. How often should your roof be inspected?
A qualified roofer should inspect your roof every three years.

21. What should be regularly checked on your security system?
The alarms and circuit breakers should be checked to make sure they are in working order and the sensors should be inspected one by one.

22. To ensure your safety, what household equipment uses batteries that must be checked regularly to make sure they are operable?
Smoke and carbon monoxide detectors.

23. What do you use to fill nail holes and cracks in plaster walls and gypsum wallboard?
Spackling.

24. What is the white powdery substance that develops on masonry walls?
Efflorescence sometimes appears on masonry walls. It is crystallized soluble salts that can be removed by scrubbing with water and a stiff brush.

25. At what temperature should your water heater be set?
120 degrees Fahrenheit

26. How often do skylights need to be inspected?
Skylights should be inspected each time your roof is inspected so leaks don't develop from cracks and interruptions around its seals, caulking and flashings.

27. What is a simple solution you can use to wash extremely dirty exterior windows?
A solution of equal parts vinegar and water or 3 tablespoons of denatured alcohol per quart of warm water. Use a piece of crumpled newspaper to wash the glass to avoid lint left behind by paper towels.

28. What can you use to help a window slide easily?
Rub the channel with a piece of paraffin.

29. What should you look for when you inspect your siding yearly?
Determine if wood-sided homes need to be repainted; check to see if the caulking around the windows and doors has split and cracked, and replace the caulk; clean the mildew; trim shrubbery away so it does not touch the siding.
Reprinted with permission from Capital Region Builders & Remodelers Association and National Association of Home Builders (NABA). To find a professional remodeler in the Capital Region including Saratoga County go to www.crbra.com.

Valentine's

By John Gray

Is there an expiration date on love? I mean, much like a gallon of milk or loaf of bread, is there a set date or window of time during which a person can truly fall in love? I wonder that sometimes when I think about the human heart and how it beats and aches and changes as we get older. Doctors will tell you the heart you have at 40 is much different than the one you had at 14, and while they would be speaking in medical terms, I think it's true emotionally as well. Age may make us wiser, but life can make us harder. Harder to trust, to believe, to love.

Think back if you will to that day in the third grade when you gathered for homeroom and fidgeted nervously in your seat. It was Valentine's Day and in a moment the teacher would announce it was time to pass out Valentine's to the classmates of your choosing. Those cardboard cutouts weren't worth a nickel, but to your fragile heart it meant the world to get one from the boy or girl you had a crush on.

Jump ahead to that 14-year-old child falling hard for the first time. Has there ever been anything close in your life to that first kiss or those late night phone calls that refuse to end? You could talk for hours about everything or nothing at all. Just sitting still in the dark of your room hearing the other person breathing on the other end of the phone was heaven. Strange how 20 years later you're laying in bed listening to them snore thinking, "God, this is hell."
As adults, we say all the time that children are reckless and don't consider the consequences of their actions. I think that's true, and especially when it comes to matters of the heart. First love isn't tainted by logic or worry or common sense. It just is. And sadly, as we get older I think we lose that ability to just jump off the cliff holding someone else's hand not thinking about the depth of the water below.

February can be a tough month for many people because everywhere they turn they have that stupid cupid shoved down their throat. Even the M&M's turn pink and red this month reminding you of LOVE. Girls at work who don't deserve a hot dog from Stewart's get roses, candy and dinner and it's all enough to make you want to curl up in front of a sappy Meg Ryan movie and eat frosting straight from the can.

I feel your pain, but here's the thing. You're not dead. You're just old and decrepit and too damn guarded to remember the fun 14-year-old you used to be. The one who dreamed big when anyone would listen, sang into a hair brush when no one was watching and fell in love like nobody would hurt them. It's the way we were and the way we could be again if we stopped worrying so much. I'm 46, divorced and done marrying people. Done. When it comes to love, my kids, friends and family are first and last in line. That said, I haven't given up on love. But, I'm not looking for it; I might not even recognize it if it bit me on the backside (no, I'm not into that kind of thing). However, I refuse to close my heart to the possibility I could meet someone special. Or, realize someone already in my life who is dressed as a friend might upgrade to something more significant down the road. That's the cool thing about life I think, that you have no idea what might be waiting around the next corner. That's the point of getting out of bed. That, and the fact that if you lay in bed all day with frosting stains on your face your friends are going to start calling you Meg, you'll end up with nine cats and kids in the neighborhood will throw rocks at your house. Plus, the cliché is true, when you stop trying to make something happen it tends to happen all on its own.

The people at Hallmark tell me that roughly 188 million Valentine's cards will be exchanged this month. Don't bother checking the mailbox because this column is my Valentine to you. (And if you're a guy reading this don't take that the wrong way. Um, consider it a fist pump or something really masculine like watching football or refusing to ask for directions when you're lost).

If you're an old married couple, God bless you. If you're divorced and lost in the woods, keep moving because the road home is just past those trees. And, if you are young and in love we salute you; just don't call each other "snookums" or do Eskimo kisses in public because it makes us single people wanna hurl. Love isn't a many splendid thing. It's tough and messy. Bob Seger once said, "I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then." It took me 20 years, but I think I finally know what old Bob was talking about. To put it another way, when it comes to love, if we could forget for just a moment that we might get hurt maybe we won't. The water may be deep enough for the both of us, but we have to jump in to find out.

John Gray is a Fox23 News anchor and contributing writer at the Troy Record. He can be reached at johngray@fox23news.com. This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it  

Sun Sign Forecast For February 2009

By Arlene DeAngelus

Best Days for February 2009:  13th, 17th, 21st and 27th • To lose those extra holiday pounds, begin a diet on the 9th 

Aries: (March 21 to April 20)
Your friends and group associations bring you pleasure this month.  You become involved in humanitarian causes and seek out others with the same interest.  This is a time to rethink your goals and directions.  Co-workers or work situations may be unpredictable on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, spend more time with loved ones and children.

Taurus: (April 21 to May 20)
Your career, or the equivalent, takes the forefront this month.  This can be a time of recognition for a job well-done or the successful completion of a project.  Communications become clearer.  A loved one questions your goals on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, personal affairs have your attention and outstanding matters are resolved.

Gemini : (May 21 to June 20)
You focus on your intellectual and spiritual needs.  You want to expand your horizons and in doing so you look to others for wisdom and knowledge.  There is a tug-of-war between your home and career duties on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you may enroll in a class or workshop.  This can be a time when you want to learn.

Cancer: (June 21 to July 22)
You can reach an agreement or negotiate a contract with another involving shared assets.  This is the time to follow your intuition.  You question your beliefs and pursue new studies and even abstract subjects on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you evaluate your financial and personal assets. Avoid impulsive spending and begin a new savings plan. 

Leo: (July 23 to August 22)
Your one-to-one partnerships bring you happiness. You enjoy discussions and through them you gain a new understanding of yourself.  On the 5th, expect the unexpected with a shared asset.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you focus on your personal needs and self-expression.  This is the time to buy some new clothes or try a new hairdo.   

Virgo: (August 23 to September 22)
Your co-workers are more cooperative and work situations ease.  This can also be a time of recognition for services well-done or a promotion.  On the 5th, tread easily in a one-to-one relationship.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you explore your inner child and spirituality.  If you enjoy retreats, this is the perfect time to plan on attending one.

Libra: (September 23 to October 22)
Your happiness comes through your loved ones and children this month.  You look for new ways to have fun and enjoy life.   This is also a favorable time if you have creative talents.  A co-worker may act out of character on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you rethink your long-term goals and directions and make any necessary changes.

Scorpio: (October 23 to November 21)
Your home life and family relationships are highlighted.  Family discussions are informative and you come away with a new perception and understanding of yourself.  Expect the unexpected from a child or loved one on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you rethink your directions in life and look for new objectives and goals.

Sagittarius: (November 22 to December 21)
You work to improve your everyday environment and attend neighborhood gatherings. You are interested in communicating with others and exchanging ideas.  Find the balance between work and home on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, your interest turns to such subjects as the law, philosophy, religion and spirituality. 

Capricorn: (December 22 to January 19)
Your finances and financial assets are favored.  This placement also rules your personal values.  You explore new ways to increase your money and negotiations can go well.  However, communications can go awry on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you review any jointly held money and property and settle outstanding debts.

Aquarius: (January 20 to February 18) 
You are your strongest asset and you express yourself to others with ease.  The first-half of the month is favorable if you need to propose an idea or project.  There can be a difference of opinion regarding shared assets on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, you may need to compromise in a one-to-one relationships, but you will learn from this.

Pisces:  (February 19 to March 20)
You are gaining new insight into your life by looking back, closing doors and moving forward.  You also look for your inner child and gain new spirituality and wisdom.  You find yourself compromising in a one-to-one relationship on the 5th.  After the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon on the 9th, work efficiency is important as well as physical efficiency.

Arlene is an author, astrologer and para-consultant and has studied and worked with astrology for more than 35 years. She has been a professional astrologer since 1980 and has a Certificate of Merit from Ivy Goldstein-Jacobson (CA) and a Certificate of Proficiency from the Mayo School of Astrology (London) In addition, she holds certifications from the National Spiritualist Association of Churches as both a Medium and Healer (NY 1982-2008). 

5 tips for landing a new job when you don't have any experience!

By Dan Moran

Sound impossible? People do it everyday. Hiring managers don't always hire the person with the most experience or education or skills. They often hire those they believe will fit into the company and meet present needs. Of course, in highly technical or very specific areas, this does not apply. If you have never flown a jet, you wouldn't want to apply to be a pilot. I really want the surgeon with the scalpel in hand to be well-trained and experienced!
Some years ago, I interviewed for a marketing position. The president of the company told me that I would be great in the role, but I could contribute more in human resources and that is where he wanted me join the company and help, even though I never had any experience in human resources. Why? It was my ability to listen and influence others. It was my strengths over experience that was most important.

Below are 5 tips from my experience that may help you:
1: Identify opportunities where your skills - or your true passion - may apply
All too often, people think that if they have only been in the "widget" industry, they have to stay in that industry. Companies often hire people who bring transferable skills that can apply in their company, and not only industry - specific experience. If you managed in a retail setting, you can manage in an office. If you were in operations, you can contribute to an operations role in a different industry.
Passion is important too. If you have a passion for the outdoors, consider this when looking at jobs or careers. Passion for helping others? Look for companies helping individuals or the community.

2: Identify jobs or careers where "soft skills" are most important
Soft skills are the talents inherent in you that you can contribute to the organization: Your personality, interests, communication style, organizational skills and more. Soft skills - or strengths - are often more important than experience and education.
For example, in sales, it is all about personality, drive and communication skills. Your ability to meet and influence people (and your ability to show this in an interview) can land you the job over your past experience. Some of the best sales talent I have seen didn't have a lick of prior sales experience. Other examples include marketing, community relations, customer service - areas where soft skills are more important than hard experience.

3: Create your soft skills "inventory"
Look beyond your experience and focus on identifying your soft skills and write them down. Ask others for their ideas - ask your significant other, those you work with, your friends and more.

4: Market your skills and strengths, and not just your experience
Many resumes are all about the facts - where, when and what I did. In this industry, we refer to them as "tombstones" (sorry, but true).
Present your transferable skills and strengths in a manner that communicates right away what you bring beyond experience and education.This is often referred to as a "transferable-skill" resume. This is the format highly recommended in today's market, where career and job change is prevalent.

5: Have it on paper? Be prepared to present it
The final step is your strategic career statement - a 30-second pitch in which you introduce what you have done and what you can do in a manner that commands attention:
"With experience in managing people, operations and processes in a company, I have posted excellent results in my career. My goal is to use my experience as shown - and my ability to communicate on all levels, motivate others and organize within a company seeking a goal-driven employee determined to grow. I may not have the specific experience you may want, but I have the drive and the ability to learn."
If you have ever wondered how a friend landed a job or new career where they didn't have experience, now you know. They were hired on their skills and strengths, and not on experience alone. You can be too; think outside the box.

Dan Moran is president & founder of Next-Act, a career management & transition firm located in Colonie. He specializes in helping people make career choices and seek new jobs. He is also a Certified Facilitator for Get Hired Now! and Get Clients Now! Programs, which help those in career transition and companies get results. You can reach him at 641.8968 or dmoran@next-act.com This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it or visit www.next-act.com.

By Susan Taylor 

February bring us a couple of fun novels, perfect for your February vacation read, whether you are spending it on the slopes, at the beach or snuggled under a blanket drinking hot cocoa at home.

After reading The Art of Racing in the Rain, I had to admit that my prejudice against books narrated by animals was irrational. And yet, running into another good one so soon was still a shock. Dog On It, by Spencer Quinn, is a hard-boiled mystery told from the point of view of Chet, a dog who flunked out of police K-9 school for reasons he can no longer recall. Chet's memory isn't very good and he is often distracted from his detective work by interesting smells or tantalizing squirrels, but his devotion to his owner Bernie, a private investigator who has fallen on hard times, is absolute. Due to his divorce, Bernie is having cash flow problems, so when a beautiful woman shows up and asks him to find her missing 15-year-old daughter, he and Chet take the case immediately. What makes this book special is not the plot, which is your basic detective story, but Chet's immediate, sensory, almost ADD-esque narration. This is a laugh out loud funny, hard-boiled detective story. The book cover calls this "A Chet and Bernie Mystery"; let's hope that means there are many more to come.

Addition, by Toni Jordan, is reminiscent of Mark Haddon's The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night. Both novels feature protagonists who have mental issues that the everyday world deems unacceptable, and both present their stories in such a way that their abnormalities seem perfectly normal; just another personality quirk.

Grace, the narrator of Addition, is Australian, a currently unemployed teacher and an obsessive-compulsive counter. Her life is ruled by numbers: the number of steps she takes during her morning routine, how long it takes to order her morning coffee at her local café, the number and types of products she allows herself to buy in the grocery store. For example, the number of bites she takes from her morning muffin is determined by the number of poppyseeds it is topped with. Although Grace's life seems circumscribed to the casual observer, she is content with her numbers and her hero-worship of Nikola Tesla, in her opinion the greatest genius the world has ever known. Her family, familiar with her oddities, is her sole social outlet. Although she finds most of her relatives banal, she bonds with her niece Larry (Grace's nickname for Hilary), who doesn't quite behave the way her conventional mother would prefer. One day, out of the blue, Grace's carefully ordered world is tilted on its axis when she meets Seamus, who asks her out to dinner. Despite herself, she accepts, knowing that she will have to keep her obsession with numbers hidden. For a time, they are happy enough, until Grace, with Seamus's encouragement, decides to try therapy to overcome her OCD. Gradually, Grace becomes someone other than herself, gaining weight, spending all her free time in front of the television, and forgetting why numbers were so important. Addition raises important questions about identity: What makes us who we are? Who defines normal? Is conformity the only way to achieve happiness? As Grace works through the answers for herself, she discovers her innate strength and courage and finds her own way to happiness. This is a wonderful, life-affirming novel, with plenty of wit and humor. May this debut be followed by many more.

Just one brief mention of another new book: the fifth book in Lauren Willig's Pink Carnation series is out this month. The Temptation of the Night Jasmine is just as charming, funny and light as its predecessors; fans are in for a treat!   
     
Susan Taylor has been in the book business, in one aspect or another, since 1982. She currently works at the Book House of Stuyvesant Plaza. Stop by the store if you are looking for a good book--she's read a lot more than she can talk about here!  

Exercise during pregnancy

By Judith Torel

Congratulations! You are pregnant! And you want to do everything that is best for your baby and yourself during this process. All the experts now agree that it is not only safe, but beneficial to maintain an exercise program while pregnant, but what can and can't you do?

The benefits of exercising while pregnant are many. An exercise program helps to relieve some of the common problems that go with pregnancy such as unnecessary weight gain, feet and hand swelling, muscle cramps, insomnia, general fatigue and constipation.  Exercise helps maintain proper posture while the developing fetus grows and puts unfamiliar pressure on the mother's skeletal system. Reduction of back aches, pelvic and rectal pressure, and improved circulation have also been associated with exercise during pregnancy. And on an emotional level, exercise helps you to feel good about yourself, which is also good for the baby!

Unless you and your doctor have identified special considerations that may place you in an at-risk pregnancy, you can continue to perform the same exercise program that you were doing pre-pregnancy. As your pregnancy progresses, your body will naturally tell you when you need to start to modify your workouts, but generally that doesn't start to happen until the second trimester.

There used to be a guideline that stated that pregnant women should not bring their heart rate above 140 beats per minute because that would create internal heat that is dangerous to the pregnancy. This is now considered the most prevalent exercise and pregnancy myth. According to Laura Riley, MD and spokesperson for the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, this information was never based on anything to begin with. 

The current method for monitoring intensity in exercise while pregnant is to use the RPE, or rate of perceived exertion. Basically, it is a self-analysis tool. At any moment during your exercise, you ask yourself how hard it feels on a scale of 1-10. You want to feel like you are working, but that you can sustain the intensity without hardship. That would be around a 7 on the scale.

The topic of pregnancy and abdominal work is also riddled with confusion among pregnant women. Many are unsure if they should do any abdominal workouts and some also believe that it is dangerous. But is not. Abdominal exercises should be performed throughout pregnancy. They benefit the core and the pelvic floor muscles that help to stabilize the woman's body during pregnancy and become instrumental in labor and delivery.
Many abdominal exercises can be done in a seated and standing position. This allows the woman to continue to strengthen the abdominals even after the first trimester, while performing these exercises while lying on her back is not recommended. Doing standing pelvic tilts, Kegels which are pelvic floor contractions (much like you would do if you were trying to stop the flow of urine) and abdominal crunches, semi-reclined on an exercise ball are all great options for pregnant women past the first trimester.

Another common question is should you run while pregnant. Here again, if you have been a runner you can continue to run into your pregnancy. Paula Radcliff trained throughout her pregnancy and then won the New York City marathon within six months of her delivery last year! That said, it does start to feel different as you continue to run into your advancing pregnancy, so modify as your body dictates. You may find that you start out running, but are power-walking by the end. As long as you are staying mindful of how you are feeling and not trying to maintain the same pacing of your pre-pregnancy workouts, all should be well.

What if you were not exercising pre-pregnancy? Does this mean that you have to wait until after the baby to start an exercise program? No. Both walking and swimming are appropriate to begin while pregnant. You can start with 10 minutes per day and advance each week by five minutes until you reach 60 minutes. You don't want to become "super exerciser" while pregnant, but you will help reduce the fatigue and get good night's sleep if you add activity to your daily life, even if you start once you become pregnant.

Exercises to avoid
There are some exercises that should be avoided while pregnant. Contact sports like soccer and balance exercises like riding an outside bike or skiing are risky to perform while pregnant. By the fourth month, a woman's balance is challenged by the changing of the center of gravity of her body, so any exercise that requires balance will become more challenging. Falling off a bike could significantly harm a developing fetus and the pros and cons of performing these types of exercises should be given great consideration.

Also, when pregnant, a woman's body produces more relaxin, a hormone that lubricates joints in order to prepare for labor. For this reason, pregnant women should modify flexibility exercises and keep within pre-pregnancy range of motion. Even though you will be able to go deeper into stretches due to the hormonal changes, this can lead to injuries and should be avoided at this time. For the same reason, deep lunges, squats, pressing weights above your head and all similar strengthening exercises need to be monitored in order to avoid joint injuries.

Some general guidelines apply to pregnancy and exercise that are the same as non-pregnancy exercise:
• Always do an adequate warm-up before an exercise session. A series of small movements involving the neck, shoulders, spine, hips and knees will get the joints ready for more intense work.
• Always stretch after an exercise session, although when pregnant avoid over-stretching.
• Avoid exercise in intense heat and always have some form of hydration available, preferably water in a non-plastic stainless steel or glass container (there is question as to whether components of plastic leak into the liquid and potentially harm the fetus and the mother).
If you experience increased uterine contractions, vaginal bleeding, amniotic fluid leakage, dizziness, shortness of breath, palpatations, general swelling or numbness, persistent nausea or vomiting, stop exercising and contact your doctor.

New syndrome
There are a growing number of pregnant women who are so concerned about keeping their figures that a new syndrome called "pregorexia" is emerging. This label applies to women who try NOT to gain the suggested 25-35 pounds during pregnancy. This is currently estimated to affect about 5% of pregnant women, but with the media coverage of the post-pregnancy physiques of celebrities these days, there is concern that this number may grow.
Too little weight gain during pregnancy can be very damaging to both mother and baby and can lead to premature births and low birth weights. Also associated with too low weight gain are: anemia, ADHD, rickets, heart disease, depression, poor growth and cognitive behavior in the baby.
Although exercise during pregnancy has many benefits, it should not be used as a method of weight loss while pregnant.

Judy Torel is a USAT coach, personal trainer, nutrition consultant and psychotherapist. She conducts online services through her website www.judytorel.com. Her office is located in Planet Fitness, Loudonville. She is also a competing triathlete who is currently training for Ironman, Florida.

Valentine's Day ...Bah humbug

By Ed. Lange

You are hereby directed to express your love to your wife, girlfriend, partner or significant other on February 14 of each year. If you don't give flowers, candy, an overpriced and sappy greeting card, jewelry and a candlelit dinner, it means you don't love her. You are a thoughtless, inconsiderate cad who deserves to be reviled by her and all of her friends until you atone for your despicable failure.

Poppycock. And if this weren't a family magazine, a stronger word would be employed.
Why are so many people brainwashed into this lunacy? Why in the name of Cupid do intelligent, rational men and women accept the concept of an obligatory day of love?  And if someone does kowtow to the peer pressure and extortion and bestows the card, flowers, jewelry, and dinner, is that someone then exempted from the need to offer any expressions of love on the other 364 days of the year? Can you then go back to being a jerk on February 15th? "Hey, I went into hock for you on Valentine's Day, that oughta be enough to prove I love you!" 

It may be that Hallmark, FTD, and Fannie Farmer will all put contracts out on my life for these sentiments, but I'll take the risk, because I'm unalterably convinced that actions speak louder than words. Especially pre-printed words on a five-dollar card written by someone else whose job it is to sit around thinking up "meaningful" words of affection and devotion. Give me a break! 

When Linda and I were first married, 40 years ago this June, I worked at a job that required me to tote a lunchbox to work. Linda made the lunches and sometimes she'd cut the sandwiches into funny jigsaw shapes and include a little love note. You can be sure that I remember those tiny acts of love more than any greeting card. Ah, but I can hear you thinking, "Oh sure, but that's when they were newlyweds, all newlyweds do silly, love-struck things like that." Wrong. It continues to this day. Not the funny jigsaw sandwiches, but other thoughtful actions have taken their place.  Actions that happen spontaneously and unexpectedly on no particular day or date and without direction from a red-letter holiday on the calendar.

I might wake up some morning and make biscuits for us served with honey and butter. Linda might cook up a favorite dinner. We even have our own expression for this, "It's the homemade biscuit way to say, 'I love you,'" or "It's the Yankee Pot Roast way to say, 'I love you.'" And no, it doesn't apply only to food, but to many little acts of thoughtfulness from one of us to the other. A love note on a bathroom mirror.  A small bouquet of flowers after a rough day. A surprise vacuuming of the house.  Doing a couple of loads of laundry. Making a cup of tea. Giving a back rub. 

The unexpected expressions of love, the unscheduled acts of caring and the unplanned gifts of the heart all have the power to mean so much more than the preordained, required ones on the calendar. So much of our lives are dictated by our careers, obligations, the economy and necessity, that when the spontaneous occurs, it delights us beyond measure and certainly beyond the effort it takes us to make the spontaneous happen for our loved ones.

If you're married, ask her to marry you again. Do the grocery shopping even if it isn't "your job". Tell her she's pretty. Wash and vacuum her car or check the air in the tires. Fill up the washer fluid. Ask her for a hug. Turn off the computer and the TV and cuddle together on the couch listening to music or a crackling fire. Mail her a postcard from a business trip. Remind her of the first time you met. Recall a time that the two of you laughed your heads off together. As tiny as these are, they are all ways to say, "I think about you.  I care about you.  It's the washer fluid way to say, I love you."

But if you feel that you must spend money, be sure that the gift is for her, and not for you. A sexy nightgown does imply the compliment, "I think you're beautiful," but it also has the potential to carry a self-serving suggestion. Do not buy her a toaster. Try a gift certificate for a pedicure. Really surprise her by taking her to the theatre to see a play or take her to see a chick flick. (Yeah, I know, it's a sacrifice, but hell, it's only two hours.) It's better still if you don't tell her where you're taking her. Make it a total surprise. (Warning: Do tell her what type of clothes to wear, though. Some women absolutely hate being inappropriately dressed.)  

And give her the gifts, surprises and kindnesses when they're least expected, not when they're calendarized. As a kind of proof, I offer you romantic comedies. Yes, I confess, I've seen some. I guarantee you that in all such plays or films, the leading guy will do something that's incredibly spontaneous, outrageous and silly, and that the leading female love interest will find it wildly romantic, go ga-ga over the guy, and fall hopelessly in love with him (even if he isn't dashingly handsome).

At doctors' offices, I sometimes sneak a look at women's magazines just to learn a thing or two. I'm not sure that the surveys they publish are scientifically accurate, but from what I've read, it seems that some women (no generalizing for this guy, pal) value qualities like humor, thoughtfulness, honesty, kindness and communication as most important in their partner. So what if you don't look like George Clooney or have the money of Bill Gates, even you have everything it takes to leave a love note in the refrigerator.

A freelance writer, three of Ed. Lange's plays were finalists for national Audie Awards, in 2000, '05, and '07, and one of the three won. His articles have appeared multiple times in national magazines: Sail, Soundings, American Theatre, and Dramatics. 

Adam Ross Cut Stone Company
1003 Broadway, Albany
463.6674; www.adamrosscutstone.com
How long have you been in business? We have been at the same Albany location since 1889.

Describe your business: We offer one of the largest stone selections for interior and exterior applications in the Northeast. We custom cut items such as countertops, hearths, mantles, staircases and sculpture bases. We repair and restore customer's existing pieces; anything from an antique marble tabletop to an intricately carved sculpture. We stock large quantities of natural and man-made veneer stone, landscaping stone and a variety of flagging materials for the home or commercial project. We are known as the original providers of stone on numerous historic buildings in downtown Albany, and as such, are often called upon for our restoration capabilities. 

What sets you apart from competitors? Adam Ross Cut Stone is still family-owned and operated. Evan Ross ushers in the sixth generation of stone cutters. We custom cut to any specification provided and have the latest in computerized stone fabricating equipment. We are recognized in the industry for our expertise on residential, commercial and public projects alike. 

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? There are positions available for students who have studied drafting, computer aided design or who are interested in the sales aspect of the business. For those who want to pursue a career in stone fabrication, however, it is a hands-only learning experience. It is truly on-the-job training for anyone who loves the idea of working with stone and the rewards that come from creating something unique. 

Where do you see your business in the next five years? With the growth of the nano-tech industry in the Capital District, and the concurrent influx of people, we see our business continuing to grow even in these difficult economic times. We are the only company to offer everything for the residential customer from kitchen countertops to landscaping stone all at one location. We look forward to the ongoing restoration work at the New York State Capital and the numerous other renovations projects that our historic city provides us with. Stone is always in style, stands the test of time and is virtually maintenance-free, so the demand for its use will continue well into the future.

Hours: Monday-Friday 8am-4pm. Evenings by appointment. Saturday hours in the spring.

Advanced Image Artistry, Inc.  
Permanent Cosmetics                                              
Serving all of New England, New York and beyond.
413.448.8500; www.AdvancedImageArt.com

Owner: Laurie Ke, RN, BSN, FAAM

How long have you been in business? 7 years

Describe your business: I use micropigmentation (permanent cosmetics) to artistically re-create the look of natural hairs in the eyebrows for those who have little or no hairs in the brow area due to aging, medical reasons, alopecia, etc. I also replace and restore the color and shape to lips that have faded, as well as add definition to the eyes with eyeliner. Additionally, I provide paramedical procedures for scar camouflage, burn and cancer survivors.

What sets you apart from your competitors? I am told by my clients that they choose me because my work is so natural looking. I have years of training in fine art, especially oil painting and pen and ink. I recently won first place in the permanent cosmetics competition held by the American Academy of Micropigmentation. I am a registered nurse and a board certified permanent cosmetic practitioner, as well as an OSHA instructor to medical professionals. Lastly, I am very passionate and meticulous about my work and consider each procedure a new work of art.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? First and foremost, anyone considering this business must absolutely have artistic talent, especially drawing with pen and ink,   and a strong knowledge of color theory. Attend an accredited program and train with as many industry  professionals as possible. It is also important to establish good relationships with plastic surgeons, oncologists and dermatologists.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? My business has had continual growth each year. In the near future I will most likely open a second clinic in Southern California, where I lived for 25 years.

Hours: Monday-Friday by appointment, as well as evening and some weekends. 

Dale Miller
Creative Culinary Concepts
30 S. Pearl Street, Albany
694.3322; www.dalemillerrestaurant.com

Owners: Dale Miller & Jim Linnan

How long have you been in business? I have been in the restaurant business for over 30 years. We will be opening the new restaurant, dalemiller, in April of 09' in downtown Albany.
 
Describe your business: dalemiller will be a magnificent new 3,715 square foot restaurant located on the ground floor of Omni Plaza. It will offer seating for 60 in the dining room and 25 at the bar and will include an adjacent "quick service area with take-out for light fare." The private dining room and banquet/meeting facility on Penthouse Level 1 will offer a roof top garden terrace with breathtaking views of the Albany skyline and be able to accommodate multiple functions from large to small groups. An outdoor garden courtyard with entertainment will be provided during the summer months. Valet parking will be available for all guests.
Menu selections will range from salads and sandwiches to fine dining options. The high end items will be reasonably priced and the menus designed to transcend a broad base of clientele. 

What sets you apart from competitors? The fact that we have a restaurant with outside dining, as well as a gourmet-to-go kiosk and penthouse banquet facility for weddings and conferences is what sets us apart from competitors, not to mention we have the only panoramic views of both the Empire State Plaza, and all of Albany. We will also be offering table top amenities available for sale to the public.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? I would recommend you work in a kitchen or hotel to see if you really have the passion and dedication first because, as it is a rewarding career, it is also a demanding one. 

Where do you see your business in the next five years? I am on a constant journey to hone and refine my craft and continue to expose Albany to new and exciting culinary creations. I feel the growth potential in this area is endless.

Hours: Monday-Friday, lunch and dinner 11:30am-10pm; Saturday 5pm-10pm dinner; closed Sunday except for major holidays and special events.

East Greenbush Window Coverings
568 Columbia Turnpike, Suite 8B · East Greenbush
477.9025;  www.eastgreenbushwindowcoverings.com

Owner: Lorraine Greaney

How long have you been in business? 21 years

Describe your business: East Greenbush Window Coverings & Home Interiors is an independent, woman-owned business that has a deep desire to work with clients to achieve the vision of what they want their home or office to be. In addition to window treatments which come in an endless variety of styles, I have added furniture for the home or office, artwork, accessories, color consultations and floor plans.

What sets you apart from competitors? I am a New York Certified Woman Owned Business and work with many state agencies, colleges and businesses in the Tri-City region. Weather the project is commercial or residential we take our client's deadlines and needs as true priorities. As an independent shop owner, I find that it is easier to foster long-term relationships with clients. I also find that working with our local workrooms enables me to have the luxury of insuring that each job is completed and installed to meet the client's expectations.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? Be passionate about what you do and work does not seem like "work". Stay focused and be resilient because there are always challenges to overcome.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? In the past year I have opened a new showroom that showcases my furniture line, artwork and accessories, and of course, gorgeous window treatment displays. The next few years I hope to continue to grow as the region grows and be an important resource for my clients and the public at large.

Hours: Showroom hours are Monday-Friday 9am-5:30pm; Saturday 10am-2pm; other hours by appointment in the showroom or in the home.

Farrell Brothers Inc.- Plumbing, Heating and
Air Conditioning
6 Simmons Lane, Albany
462.5454; farrellbrothers.com

Owner: Randy L Rowe, president

How long have you been in business? Since 1921

Describe your business: We are a full-service plumbing, heating and air conditioning contractor specializing in service and repair. We service over 10,000 households in the greater Capital Region area from changing a washer on your faucet to installing a high efficiency heating and cooling system in your home.

What sets you apart from competitors? We try to promote ourselves as professionals and keep the best interest of the customer in mind at all times. This is why we have gone to a flat rate pricing system so the customer knows up front how much their repair is going to be rather than using the conventional time and material method. We also guarantee appointment windows so our customers don't have to sit home all day waiting for the plumber to show up.
Another benefit that we offer is same day service which seems to be what people want in our ever-changing market.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? I would advise someone to be prepared to work long hours because our day does not end at five o'clock. Although this business can be very rewarding at times, it can also be very stressful.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? We have been actively seeking and looking into high-efficient heating and cooling systems. We will be going green with tankless water heaters and will be offering solar options.

Hours: We are a plumbing and heating company so our hours are 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, including holidays.

Joyelles Jewelers
Main Square Shoppes - Suite 12
318 Delaware Avenue, Delmar
439.9993; www.joyellesjewelers.com

Owner:  Mary Vail

How long have you been in business? Over 18 years.  

Describe your business: Joyelles carries sterling, gold, platinum, diamond and gemstone jewelry. We specialize in jewelry repair and design, done on the premises. We also carry giftware.

What sets you apart from competitors? The close-knit staff is like a family; we work well together and care about each and every customer. We have a state-of-the-art laser welder that allows us to do jobs others can't. We keep prices pretty competitive because we're a small business.

What advice would you give others wanting to pursue a similar career? Get educated because there is a lot to know. Surround yourself with good people and make sure your customers are number one. I graduated from Skidmore College with a Fine Arts degree. I then took metalsmith classes at University of Oregon and did graduate work in metalsmithing at Indiana University. After that I took classes at the Gemological Institute of America concentrating on diamond setting, stone setting, pearl grading and gemstone identification.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? I see Joyelles growing. We have already watched a generation of our customer's children grow up and become our new customers. Our customers are wonderfully loyal; we see them year after year.

Hours: Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday 9:30am-5:30pm; Thursday 9:30am-7pm; Saturday 9:30am-5pm; closed Sunday & Monday.

Old Daley Inn Catering Company, LLC
2 Northern Drive, Troy
235.2656; www.olddaleyinn.com

Owners: Jim Pettit, Gene Coletti & Marty Keary

How long have you been in business? 33 years

Describe your business: The Old Daley Inn Catering Company is a full-service, off-premises catering company serving the greater Capital Region and beyond. "From Backyard to Ballroom, We Do It All!" is our motto. We also have two lunch café's, The Old Daley Inn Marketplace and Pastanini, both on Maiden Lane off North Pearl Street in Albany. Serving a variety of American, Southwest and Italian foods, they're open Monday-Friday 11:30am-2:30pm. Our outdoor vending division serves a 30-item menu from seasonal vending carts, April to October, in front of the Legislative Office Building on State Street and at the Harriman State Office Campus. The Barbecue division offers big "Pit" style Barbecues and our famous Drop-off Barbecues year round. Our Food Service Management division operates Corporate Café's within large office buildings.

What sets you apart from competitors? What sets us apart is our overall company outlook and attitude. Our everyday focus and goal is to create lasting relationships with our customers based on trust, honesty, cooperation and complete satisfaction. When you call The Old Daley Inn, you will find that we are the easiest company on the planet to do business with. In addition, we have a very fun and positive work atmosphere knowing that a happy workplace produces the best products and service.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? Love what you do and do what you love. It's our mantra for business, quoted in our television, radio and vehicle advertising.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? Expansion of our Food Service Management division and the addition of a banquet facility. We are a highly motivated company always looking to take The Old Daley Inn to the next level.

Hours: Monday-Friday 8am to 4pm. 

RG Stoves & Awnings
1541 NY 67, Schaghticoke
753.4346; rgstovesandawnings.com

Owner: Ed Reynolds

How long have you been in business? Since 1990.

Describe your business: RG Stoves and Awnings is owned and operated by the Reynolds family and is located in the town of Schaghticoke in Northern Rensselaer County. We carry and professionally install the finest quality stoves and awnings on the market. Warm yourself in the cold winter months with a Harman stove. They provide great heat, better fuel economy and require low maintenance. Harman stoves are available in gas, wood, coal, and of course, pellet stoves, boilers and furnaces. We also sell wood pellets on premise.
For the warm summer months, consider a Sunesta awning. For more then 20 years, Sunesta awnings have stood apart as the finest awnings made. Each Sunesta awning is individually crafted to fit the customer's exact needs and tastes. When you buy a Sunesta awning, you can always be sure that the colors are right, the fit is perfect and the craftsmanship is without equal. This year we are offering new products to fill our expanding showroom.

What sets you apart from competitors? Premier customer service and location. RG Stoves and Awnings is conveniently located near Rensselaer, Saratoga and Washington counties, as well as Southern Vermont. Our satisfied customers cover the entire region.  Plan to visit our showroom today. The scenic drive alone will make it worth your while....as will the quality of our products and services.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? Customer service and quality products is what will set you apart from others.  Have both!  Be prepared to devote many hours to make your business successful. 

Where do you see your business in the next five years? We are currently expanding our showroom to provide more top quality products and top rate service for many years to come.

Hours: Monday-Friday 9am-5pm; Saturday 9am-3pm.

River Stone Manor
1437 Amsterdam Road, Glenville
382.8322; www.riverstonemanor.com

Owners: Angelo (Skip) Sgarlata & Thomas Monteparo

How long have you been in business? The Sgarlata family opened their first restaurant 94 years ago and remained at the same location until opening the River Stone Manor with Tom in September 2003. Skip has personally been in the banquet and catering business for 36 years.

Describe your business: In-house banquets and off-premise catering specializing in weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, corporate events, business meetings, seminars, picnics, holiday parties and mitzvahs.

What sets you apart from others? Location, location, location. River Stone Manor is located on 15 acres of beautifully landscaped property on the banks of the Mohawk River. We offer three sites on the property to choose from. Our main ballroom features a complete wall of windows and French doors that open up to a beautiful patio overlooking the river. The ballroom comfortably seats 240 guests with a dance floor. The Manor House, perfect for intimate weddings, offers dinner and buffet packages with seating up to 25 guests or cocktail and hors d'ouvre receptions for 40 guests. The Manor House is also available for the bride and her bridesmaids to prepare for the wedding ceremony being held on the grounds. Your third choice is our Terrace tent which is located 30 feet from the Mohawk River and offers a unique atmosphere
you will not find anywhere else, seating up to 115 guests.
We have been told that the flavor and presentation of our food is second to none. And, you will receive personal attention not only from the staff, but from the owners themselves.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career path? Be sure you are prepared to work an incredible amount of hours. You have to truly love this business in order to succeed.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? We have had growth in sales and exposure every year since we've opened and we are expecting that this will continue.  We have plans to further landscape the property making the grounds even more breathtaking. Several of our brides and grooms have referred to the property as "a little piece of heaven."

Hours: 24-7. We are available any time of the day or evening to meet our client's needs. Closed Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Christmas.

Silhouette Eye Studio
5 Ulenski Drive, Albany
Off of Wolf Road - behind Professor Java's 
944.2300; www.silhouette-eyestudio.com

Owner: Arnold Schmied Jr.
Medical Director: Dr. Chad Vaughn, OD

How long have you been in business? Since November 2008.

Describe your business: We are a state-of-the-art optometric practice focused on providing comprehensive eye health examinations and consultations while providing exquisite eyewear and lenses in a relaxing and welcoming environment showcasing our three brands: Silhouette, Adidas and Daniel Swarovski Crystal Eyewear.

What sets you apart from competitors? Our philosophy goes beyond traditional expectations. We look at things from a broader perspective and hope to redefine how people think about eye care by combining medical expertise, wellness, relaxation and beauty treatments with innovative eyewear concepts for luxury, fashion and sport. Our consultants will help you find the perfect balance between functionality and fashion - combining lifestyle assessment and face shape analysis with unmatched product knowledge to help you find the most appealing frame and fit. To compliment your new eyewear purchase, we offer complimentary makeup applications with our mineral makeup line, Jane Iredale. We also carry restorative and anti-aging skin care products from Murad.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? The field of eyecare is constantly evolving. It allows for many rewarding experiences both personally and professionally. I would say do what you love in life and work hard to accomplish your goals. If helping people improve their quality of life by enhancing their most precious sense seems intriguing, then the field of eyecare may be for you.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? As a start-up business, we hope to establish the Silhouette Eye Studio as the premier optometric practice in the Capital Region where one can be confident they are receiving an exceptional quality of eyecare and eyewear in a beautiful, relaxing facility that prides itself on outstanding customer service. 

Hours: Monday, Thursday 9am-7pm; Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday 8:30am-5pm; Saturday 8:30am-12:30pm.

The Cross Eyed Owl Gift Shop
3143 Route 9, Suite 8, Valatie
758-6755; www.crosseyedowl.com

Owner: Patricia Varga

How long have you been in business? 16 years. We moved to this larger location four years ago from a tiny building down the road where we had been for 12 years. On January 1st of this year we changed the name of the shop; for 15 years prior we were known as Field Flowers.

Describe your business: The Cross Eyed Owl is not your average card and gift shop.  Every nook and cranny of the shop is filled to the brim with unique items alongside everyone's much requested everyday favorites! The entire shop is grouped by themes which makes shopping a sensory delight instead of a chore. Color groupings for home décor makes finding coordinating items a breeze.

What sets you apart from your competitors? Our selection and our customer service set us apart. Everyone who walks through our door for the first time cannot believe the selection of gift items and home decor that we have. With items from over 400 vendors, there really is something for everyone.  I hand select each and every greeting card and we are known for having the best selection of cards for just that reason!

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? So many of my customers say they'd love to have a place just like mine when they retire. I tell them that as long as they like long hours and hard work, the rest is a breeze. I love almost everything that comes with running a shop. I would have to say that meeting new people everyday and getting to be a part of their special family events over the years is my favorite part. I've seen a lot of babies and children grow up over the last 16 years. Finding just the right goodies for the shop would have to be the next on my list, and lastly, all the boring business details that need to be completed on a regular basis are at the bottom of the list, of course! You've got to love what you do and be detail-oriented in this business.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? I plan to continue to serve the needs of my local customers while entering the world of internet sales as well. We'll strive to take the shop in whatever direction the customers desire, serving their needs and taking their suggestions whenever we can.

Hours: Monday-Friday 10am-6pm: Wednesday 10am-8pm; Saturday 10am-5pm, Sunday 12pm-5pm.  

The Orlo School of Hair Design and Cosmetology
232 North Allen Street, Albany
459.7832; www.theorloschool.com

Owners: Rick and Alice Caputo

How long have you been in business? Since 1995. We have been Beauty School owners since 1989. Rick has been in the beauty business since the early 1960s. Alice has been a licensed cosmetologist since the late 70s. She started teaching in 1989, and is currently the director of The Orlo.

Describe your business: We instruct students in the skills and principles of The Cosmetology Arts and Sciences. Classes in theory and practical skills are incorporated throughout our 1,000 clock-hour course. The subjects include: hairdressing, skin care and nail technology.  In addition, an integral and important part of the program is teaching the knowledge and skills necessary for successful New York State Licensure. Our goals are threefold. First, the student will successfully complete our 1,000-hour program. Secondly, the student will become licensed in the state of New York by successfully completing the licensure exams, and last, but not least, the student will become gainfully employed in the career opportunity of their choice.

What sets you apart from competitors? First and foremost, our years of experience in the beauty business.  Plus, we strive to encourage the creativity in our students.  Our experienced and dedicated staff of instructors take a keen interest in each and every student. Our interest and dedication is evident in the huge success of our multitude of graduates.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? Interview people who have made this career choice. Visit salons and spas and talk to the owners, salon managers and stylists. Hear what they have to say: "I believe you won't be disappointed.  Anyone who loves a career where they continually meet new people, learn new creative techniques, and can enhance the lives of others will be making a positive choice for their future!"

Where do you see your business in the next five years? Our business continues to grow. We are hoping that we will continue to grow in the next five years. In today's economy where people are losing their jobs, a career in cosmetology is a terrific choice!

Hours: Monday-Thursday 8:45am-10pm; Friday 8:45am-3:15pm; Saturday 9am-2:30pm. For anyone looking to save money on salon services, our student salon is open Monday and Wednesday through Saturday.

The OuterZone Laser Tag Arena & Video Arcade
82 Congress Street Plaza, Saratoga Springs
587.8243; www.outerzonesaratoga.com

Owner: Gordon Duell

How long have you been in business? Almost 12 years.

Describe your business: We are a family operated, family entertainment facility that provides laser tag games and parties to all ages, as well as a video arcade for individuals, family and friends, groups and organizations.

What sets you apart from competitors? I would have to say the fact that we are a family-owned business. My brother and two daughters each have the capabilities that are essential to running a successful business.

What advice would you give to others wanting to pursue a similar career? Don't expect a huge return immediately. It takes time and many hours to build your business. Always keep a plan going. Be patient and don't give up.

Where do you see your business in the next five years? Right now we are in the process of expanding and becoming a Family Entertainment Center with multiple venues. In five years I hope to be in a different facility and become very established with the new business. 

Hours: Thursday 4pm-9pm; Friday 4pm-12am; Saturday 10am-12am; Sunday 11am-6pm. We basically cater to the availability of school age kids, so in the summer we are open all week. 

By Linda McClain, CTA 

Do you have a favorite USA vacation? Jackson Hole, Wyoming and Yellowstone National Park, are mine. Did you know that Jackson Hole is a popular destination for corporate retreats and reunions? If skiers, artists, cowboys, and even movie stars are attracted to this area, will this destination have you packing your bags, too?        

How do I get there?
United and Delta Airlines offer connecting flights from Albany into Jackson Hole, Wyoming. When flying from the Capital Region, you'll gain two hours, due to Mountain Time zone. Flights on United Airlines can have you there between noon and 2pm. The airport is located at the base of the Grand Teton Mountains. Awe-inspiring views from the plane give way to Jackson Hole's tiny airport, the only municipality within a national park. One can't help but be amused by the size of the terminal and parking area. Albany International Airport would be considered sprawling in comparison. The scenic drive to Jackson is just 10 miles away. En route, one can't miss the 25,000 acre National Elk Refuge. Between 7,000 and 10,000 elk roam the preserve during the winter months, while many come and go throughout the year.

When should I go? 
Regardless of the weather, there is a visual and pleasurable advantage with every season. Because the valley floor is 6,200 feet in elevation, the air is dry and thin. Plan to dress in layers and bring sun block whatever the day, regardless of the season.
Summer highs peak in July: 81F and lows 41F.
Fall highs peak in September: 69F and lows 39F.
Winter highs peak in February: 31F and lows 5F. Jackson Hole's winter inversion effect can force cold air to remain at the base of the mountains, while making higher elevations 10 to 20 degrees warmer. 
Spring highs peak in May: 61F and lows 31F. Brilliant sunshine can make the atmosphere feel much warmer.

What can I do there?
Jackson Hole is a small western community of about 15,000 people, surrounded by some of the most magnificent scenery in the world. Jackson is located at the southern end of Jackson Hole. Its unique town square is flanked by arches created from shed elk horns. Local boutiques, museums, art galleries and realty offices give Jackson an artistic, creative, "must see" charm. Yet, the rugged mountain back drop and local Silver Dollar bar are reminders that this is cowboy country.
Surrounded by several mountain ranges, the southernmost gateway to Yellowstone National Park is under an hour's drive. Admiring views of the Grand Teton Mountain range give hint to the breathtaking beauty within the world's oldest national park, Yellowstone. Roughly the size of Connecticut, it borders Wyoming, Montana and Idaho and cannot be completely seen in one day.  

Summer fun
Jackson Hole Rodeo, summertime tradition. Want to be a cowboy or see one? Kids can participate in a calf scramble, too!
Been there, done that? Book the family on a covered wagon train vacation for 3 or 4 nights.
Alpine Slide - Ride the chairlift to the top. Wind down through 2,500 feet of woods and wildflowers, while you control the speed.    
America's Serengeti - Discover the wildlife of Yellowstone on a guided learning adventure. Animals and creatures inside the park: bison, grizzly bear, black bear, big horn sheep, pronghorn, elk, wolf, mountain goat, moose, deer, coyote, marmot, otter, beaver, wild cats, fox, antelope, eagle, hawk, osprey, swan, owl, heron, pika and grouse.
Snake River - Choose extreme or serene while white water rafting or drifting along on a scenic raft float.
Love horseback riding? Home to exceptional equestrian tours, choose from an itinerary along scenic Snake River canyon, ride into the beautiful Gros Ventre mountains or immerse yourself in an authentic dude ranch experience.
Hike or bike - 28-miles of paved scenic biking trails, referred to as Community Pathways.  40 additional miles will soon be added, through Grand Teton National Park.   
Rich man, poor man? Split up your stay between an accommodation within Yellowstone National Park, as well as Jackson Hole. Whether it's the great outdoors or great indoors, reserve your space now.     
Fishing - season runs Memorial Day weekend-November.
Golfing - challenging, inspiring, rewarding.

Winter fun
Jackson Hole offers some of the most challenging ski trails in North America. The brand new Jackson Hole Mountain resort tram can transport 100 skiers to the top of Rendezvous Peak (4,139 vertical feet), in nine minutes. Ski resorts and condominiums are in high demand during ski season, which runs mid December--early April. If you ski, book months in advance.
Why not celebrate New Year's Eve in Jackson Hole? Torchlight parades and fireworks are just part of the festivities, for both young and old.  
Yellowstone Park offers many winter activites: sleigh rides, ice skating, snowshoeing, cross country skiing, guided snowmobile and snow coach tours, to name a few.

Area trivia
•  In 1920, Jackson elected the first all-woman town council in the United States, dubbed the "Petticoat Government", by The New York Times.
•  The Roosevelt arch is located at the northern entrance of Yellowstone Park. The cornerstone was laid by President Theodore Roosevelt.  
•  Between 1886-1918, the US Army had a base at Ft. Yellowstone in Mammoth Springs, to protect the area, before its national park was formed. 
• Steamboat Geyser (in Yellowstone Park) not Old Faithful, is the largest geyser in the world.
• Famous residents have included Tiger Woods, Dick Cheney, Sandra Bullock and Harrison Ford.
• Nearby Wilson is the original settlement of Jackson Hole and is the wealthiest zip code in the United States.
• Many movies have been filmed in Jackson Hole, including "Shane", "Any Which Way You Can" and "Rocky IV".
If you go, expect to be much happier on arrival than when you leave to come home. For more information visit www.jacksonholechamber.net and www.yellowstonepark.net. 
    
Linda McClain, CTA, is owner of Capital Region based Linda McClain Travel Services "From The Islands To The Highlands, No Dream Is Too Far From Here!" For more information call 372.7657 or visit www.lindamcclaintravel.net. I invite you to contact me for travel assistance to your favorite travel destination.

You may remember in June that I was concerned about the clouds hovering over the economy. I believed that the economy was on the wrong track, but not getting derailed and heading towards a cliff. I am not an economist or an economic forecaster, but who could have predicted what had transpired in the past few months.  
While some so-called financial experts say we are not at the bottom yet, I have faith that we will get out of this financial situation better and stronger from it. Not only is our current situation not as dismal as previous hardships, but the American economy and people are more poised, determined and resilient than portrayed by these financial pundits.
Regardless of who I actually voted for in November, as I watched the inauguration online in my office, I was proud to see the peaceful transfer of power from one political party to another party and to listen to President Obama's speech. To see over a million of my fellow Americans gathered on the Mall in freezing, wintry weather just to witness this historic moment was awesome.  
There will be tough times ahead and sacrifices to be made, but if we work together, we can overcome our current problems and make improvements to the greatest nation in the world. Yes, We Can!
Now let us shift from the economy and politics and focus on the month of February. First, for husbands, wives, boyfriends or girlfriends, please remember to get your loved one a Valentine's gift. There's nothing better to warm the heart of your special someone with a card and chocolate or jewelry. I usually give my wife chocolate that I buy online from a company based in Europe and jewelry from a shop in Manhattan, but this year, I'm shopping local at Uncle Sam's Chocolate Factory in Schenectady and Joyelles Jewelers in Delmar.  
Second, for those skiers or vacationers who have gone west to Colorado or Utah in the past, save the airfare and the time spent waiting on line at the airport and try the great places nearby, like Whiteface or High Falls Gorge during this wintry month before the meteorologists predict the next great snow melt.

Cheers!!


Doug Hahn

According to Jim Sasko, president of Teakwood Builders, Inc., in Saratoga Springs, these are the hot home trends for 2009:

1. Glass tile backsplash
2. Oversized sinks, i.e. farm sinks
3. Copper, bronze, or other rarely seen metals in kitchens in the form of sinks, faucets, accent pieces
4. Open shelving vs. closed cabinetry
5. French door style refrigerators
6. Under cabinet wine chillers
7. Extensive millwork and custom designed cabinet styles, shapes, door styles, etc.
8. Drawer style microwave ovens. Draw-style dishwashers, out for a little while now, are also popular
9. Lighting, lighting and more lighting
10. Stone countertops are still a number one choice, i.e. granite, slate, marble, soapstone
11. Pot fillers behind the cook top
12. Decorative exhaust hoods above cook tops made from materials other than matching cabinetry or stainless, i.e. copper, stucco, tile
13. Furniture legs on islands to give the impression of furniture
Teakwood Builders Inc. is located in Saratoga Springs. For more information call 587.2880 or visit www.teakwoodbuilders.com

Custom cabinetry has become increasingly popular as homeowners look for ways to make their home feel more like their own. Families can create their own perfectly styled cabinetry for the bath, bedroom, laundry room and any other room that begs for storage space.

In the bedroom, customized armoires and dressers provide generous storage space through built-ins, pull-outs and adjustable hanging spaces. A jewelry shelf is a simple way to keep earrings and necklaces from becoming tangled, and can be tucked away within an armoire. In the bedroom and family rooms, entertainment centers can be customized to conceal less-than-attractive cords and outlets, and can protect and hide the television screen.

Cabinetry in the bathroom can hide toiletry items that aren't meant to be on display and give the room a polished look. Even laundry baskets can be concealed by cabinetry to create extra space by reducing clutter.

"Customers want to efficiently utilize every inch of space in their home, and they want to do it with style," says George "Butch" Achey, president of Plain & Fancy Custom Cabinetry. "Custom cabinetry offers homeowners a solution, they can pick and choose door styles, wood species, even a customized color so that cabinetry not only serves its purpose, but also doubles as decoration for any room in the home."

To learn more about the benefits of custom cabinetry and to create a personal portfolio, log on to www.plainfancycabinetry.com.

 

Housing sales may be down, but people are still remodeling. Drive through any neighborhood in the Capital Region and you'll notice houses that were once on the market now undergoing some sort of remodeling.

"Remodeling is still an option," said Jim Sasko, president of Teakwood Builders, Inc. in Saratoga Springs. "Though it's not up [statistically], it's more consistent than new construction these days."

Clients interested in remodeling typically fit a similar mold, he said. They are usually older and established with kids out of the house, are living in their second or third home and plan on staying there for the long haul.

"In most cases this is the 'selfish remodel,'" said Sasko. Most times clients are working within the existing footprint of their home rather than adding on.
And some people, like Meridith Englander and Josh Heller, remodel because they realize that they just might not find their perfect house. This Albany couple, who live in a 1940s style home in the Buckingham Pond neighborhood, had been looking for a new house for years. They yearned for a house abundant with architectural detail, quality workmanship and a floor plan geared for modern living. They wanted a neighborhood for their kids and a short commute to work.

"We bought plans for a new house that we liked, but the costs to build it and buy the lot were prohibitive," said Englander. "We decided to spend the money on our home when we realized that we may not ever find the 'perfect' house.'"

The couple hired Teakwood Builders for the job after discovering them online when they were searching for a home builder. "Their website was impressive, so we gave them a call."

After meeting with Sasko and determining their budget, they worked on the aesthetic details with him. Should the design be creative to fit unique spaces or make a statement? Or should it fit seamlessly into the home?

Once the aesthetic preferences were determined, Sasko presented them with a concept drawing of what their house could look like.
For Englander and Heller, it was the first floor of their home that needed improvement. They moved and expanded their kitchen, put in a new half bathroom, added a mudroom and converted a formal dining room into a family room. They also changed the façade on the back of the house, installed new shutters, added a stone patio and painted the outside and inside of the house. Construction started last May and ended in mid-October.

"The project gave us open and comfortable living space by combining kitchen, dining and family areas," said Englander. "We had no use for a formal dining room and we did not want a massive foyer."

Unforeseen events are bound to happen when remodeling. Thankfully, for this couple, the only mistake was on the part of the manufacturer for their built-in refrigerator, who gave them the wrong measurements. In the end, they wound up with a larger model at no extra charge.
The key to surviving nearly six months of remodeling was a reasonably comfortable space in the rest of the house for meals and relaxing. And they were able to use the outdoors for cooking and playing.

"Our builders were very respectful of our space and they kept their work area relatively neat when they were not here," said Englander.
Her advice to those considering remodeling is to engage in "careful discussion about living arrangements with the builder." People should be "very involved in the planning phase to get the details worked out right and then stay involved in the decision-making throughout the project."

Sasko credits not just the finished product with a successful outcome, but everyone involved.

"It's our team, our lead carpenters and the tradesmen we choose to work with that make a good experience all the way through."
Maybe now, Englander and Heller, finally have their perfect home. "We love the renovation!"

For more information on Teakwood Builders visit www.teakwoodbuilders.com
- MB Galarneau

You've been itching to renovate or redecorate, but it may be difficult to fund your grand dreams given the current economy. Gutting the master bath or completely upgrading the kitchen may be on hold for a while, but you can still make some decorating changes that will have a big impact - for less than $100 a project.

From the front door to the back deck, simple, cost-effective improvements and decorator touches can enhance your enjoyment of your home or attract buyer interest if you're trying to sell it. Here are six ideas for simple, easy, budget-friendly changes:

1. Give the front door a fresh coat of paint. If you live in a community with a homeowner's association, you may be required to repaint the door in its original color. But if not, consider painting it red. Not only is it eye-catching and cheerful, red on a door is considered good luck in the ancient Chinese tradition of Feng Shui.

2. Add solar lights along flower beds or the walk leading up to your front door. Solar lights are not only eco-friendly, they create a gentle, welcoming glow at night. Most designs are as easy to install as pushing a stake into the ground. Buy them at a club or discount store and you may pay as little as $50 for a set of lights.

3. In the kitchen, give cabinets a good scrub. You may not realize how dingy accumulated grime can make wood cabinets appear. After you clean them, switch out old hardware with new, chic handles and pulls. With home improvement stores carrying a wide variety, it's possible to replace all your kitchen cabinet hardware for well under $100.

4. Add a decorative wallpaper mural. A favorite technique of interior designers, wallpaper murals can go virtually anywhere - kitchen, bedroom, dining room, bath, or even on an outdoor patio. They're easy to install, and you'll find a range of murals by Environmental Graphics at www.decorplace.com - all for less than $100, and many for as little as $80.

5. If your wood floor is scratched and shabby, or your carpet is stained and smelly, it's unlikely you could refinish the floor or replace the carpet for less than $100. But you can paint the entire wood floor, or add a painted border for that price. It's also possible to paint a design on the carpet, or rip it up and paint the wooden floor beneath it. You'll probably need a gallon or two of paint, depending on the size of the room, so your costs will range around $50 to $75.

6. Artwork is a great way to dress up any room. Create a meaningful, personalized gallery in your own kitchen by buying several frames in varying sizes and shapes at your local dollar, home goods or crafts store. Paint them all the same color and fill them with hand-written recipes collected from family members. Ask contributors to write out their favorite recipe on the paper of their choice - or provide them with eye-catching paper and colorful pens.
The days of redecorating for pennies may be long gone and big-ticket renovations are far in the future for many economy-stressed homeowners. But with some creativity, elbow grease - and less than $100 - it's possible to make simple decorating changes that will help your home look like a million bucks.

Courtesy of ARA Content

Follow these 10 tips when you embark on an exciting home remodeling project.

1. Establish good two-way communication with the remodeler. It's essential to have good communication for a smooth remodeling project. Does the remodeler listen? Does he or she answer questions clearly and candidly? Can you reach him when you need to? Does he return phone calls promptly? Does he let you know when problems arise and work with you on solving them?

2. Make sure you have compatibility and "fit" with the contractor. You'll spend a lot of time with your remodeler so it's important to have a good rapport and trust in him. 

3. Set a clear and mutual understanding about the schedule. You and your remodeler should agree on the schedule up front to avoid conflict and problems later in the project.

4. Request a written proposal. Often times, two people remember the same conversation differently. Get the proposal in writing and work with the remodeler to ensure it reflects your wishes.

5. Determine a clear and mutual understanding on the miscellaneous details. There are a lot of little details that need to be settled before work starts. What times of day will they be working? How will he access the property? How will cleanup be handled? How will they protect your property? 

6. Remember to be flexible. Remodeling is an interruption of your normal life. Remember to be flexible during the project so that you can handle the unexpected and go with the flow.

7. Create a clear and mutual understanding of how Change Orders will be handled. With remodeling there is always the chance you may want to change materials or other project details during the job. Agree with your remodeler on how these changes will be handled before the start of work. Also understand that changes could affect the schedule and the budget, so it's important you have all changes in writing.

8. Agree on a well-written contract that covers all the bases. The contract should include these elements: a timetable for the project, price and payment schedule, detailed specifications for all products and materials, insurance information, permit information, procedures for handling change orders, lien releases, provisions for conflict resolution, notice of your right under the Federal Trade Commission's Cooling Off Rule (your right to cancel the contract within three days if it was signed someplace other than the remodeler's place of business), and details on the important issues (such as access to your home, care of the home, cleanup and trash removal).

9. Ask for a written Lien Waiver from the remodeler upon completion of the work. If the remodeler hires subcontractors for portions of the work it is their responsibility to see them compensated. In order to ensure this has been done and to protect yourself, ask for a written lien waiver when the work is finished. This document will verify everyone has been paid. 

10. Establish a project plan, covering all phases and dependencies in the work. Plan your big picture goals with the remodeler and talk out your needs. Hire a remodeler who will plan it out with you, listen to concerns and answer questions. 

From How to Hire Your Dream Remodeler by Tom Higgins, Superior Products Home Improvement, Littleton, Colo.
Reprinted with permission from Capital Region Builders & Remodelers Association and National Association of Home Builders (NAHB). To find a professional remodeler in the Capital Region including Saratoga County go to www.crbra.com.

Is it time to remodel?

Perhaps it was that moment when you realized that avocado green and harvest gold are no longer the "in" colors for today's trendy kitchens. Or maybe you had an epiphany one day as you stood in line to use your own bathroom. Whatever the impetus, the thought has crossed your mind: Maybe it's time to remodel . . .

If you decide to follow through on that thought, you'll join millions of others who decide to remodel their homes each year. The reasons for remodeling are as varied as the projects we undertake. Some of these include:

• Adding more space.
• Upgrading cabinets, counters, appliances, and fixtures.
• Creating a floor plan that's customized for your lifestyle.
• Improving energy efficiency with new windows, doors, insulation, and climate control systems.
• Increasing the resale value of your home.

Before you head too far down the remodeling path, it's a good idea to think through your wants and needs:
• Decide what changes you want to make.
• Ask yourself and other family members what you like and dislike about the house, then create a prioritized list.
• Look at magazines and collect pictures of what you like.
•  Think about traffic patterns, furniture placement, colors, lighting and how you want to use the remodeled space now and in the future.

Reprinted with permission from Capital Region Builders & Remodelers Association and National Association of Home Builders (NAHB). To find a professional remodeler in the Capital Region including Saratoga County go to www.crbra.com.