Recently, my heart has been hardened by people hurting me. I am fearful this is causing me to change from who I always have been. I was always a compassionate woman with a big heart. However, I find myself being closed off and cold hearted and guarded. How can I allow myself to stay a loving person through hurt and turmoil?
Sincerely, Inverted Heart
Dear Inverted Heart,
At one time or another in life we will be met with hurt from someone or something. Many people we encounter who appear “bitter” or “mean” spirited most likely once encountered a deep hurt. It is a challenge to remain true to who we are through such challenges and hurt brought our way. However, it is possible if we remember hurtful things brought into our lives is not about us, it’s about the other(s) who bring it and their insecurities or failure to see how their actions hurt others. Many times when we allow ourselves to be changed by the behaviors of others, we do so without realizing what a betrayal to oneself that is. How dare we betray ourselves and become someone other that who we were meant to be. Even through loss we can strive to be open to insights and direction and strength. BECAUSE A LOVED ONE HAS DIED, MUST WE DIE TO? In the same for instance, when we are hurt or betrayed, we do not have to become the perpetrator by hurting others or ourselves. To do so would be more damaging than the initial hurt. Lastly, It is a compassion loving heart that often is the beauty that tames the BEAST.