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People seek help for a number of reasons, including (but not limited to):
- Anxiety
- Career crisis
- Creative blocks
- Depression
- Emotional Distress
- Gender Issues
- Grief
- Health
- Life Transitions
- Midlife Crisis
- Personal growth
- Relationship Issues
- Spiritual needs
- Stress
- Worry
Sometimes you need someone to talk to, someone who can help...
When you feel you can't do it alone...
When you feel trapped, like there's nowhere to turn...
When you worry all the time, and never seem to find the answers...
When the way you feel is affecting your sleep, your eating habits, your job, your relationships, your everyday life...
When even the advice offered by family or well-meaning friends doesn't really help you feel any better, I can help.
Recognizing the need for professional help is a good first step towards improvement.
Getting help can be of real benefit, providing help for a wide range of problems such as depression, loss, marital strife, parent-child concerns, or emotional distress. It can also help fulfill aspirations for personal growth or self-improvement. Psychosynthesis has one clear and definite purpose: that something of positive value and constructive usefulness will come out of it for you.
Emotional Distress
From time to time, everyone experiences emotional pain. But sometimes the distress is particularly severe or long-lasting and interferes with your ability to function in your daily life. If you are experiencing sadness, grief, or anxiety that is persistent, working together, we can help relieve the symptoms, address the underlying causes for your distress, and provide you with help in restoring emotional well-being.
Personal Growth
Holistic Counseling offers a gentle approach that can help you overcome obstacles keeping you from reaching your goals and becoming the person you want to be. Although you might not have a clinical condition or symptoms, I can help you learn more about yourself, as well as others, and how you can live your life with deeper personal satisfaction.
Relationship Issues
Your distress may be coming from difficulties in your relationship with a, parent, child, co-worker or significant other. Counseling can be valuable in helping you understand the root of the problem and providing you with the understanding and skills you need to improve the relationship.
Coping Mechanisms
Sometimes emotional distress or relationship problems are associated with coping mechanisms, such as excessive shyness, weak communication, lack of assertiveness, or poor anger control. Together we can enable you to acquire or strengthen skills that can benefit many of the most important areas of your life.
It is impossible to get through life without bumping up against our insecurities, our issues.....our "stuff". We are all the same in this respect. You don't have to be crazy, maladjusted, weird or uncool to go to counseling. You go because you want to get more fun out of life, understand yourself better, feel more in tune with yourself and others, be more spiritual, or feel more connected to your community.
I'll assist you the best I can in helping you find the answers. You decide what's useful. It's up to you to choose what's valuable and important. It is your choice. Contact me for your FREE consultation and we will begin the journey together: therapist@nycap.rr.com
When we choose that which is not best for us, there can be a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal.
In almost every case, we know what is best for us in our lives, from the relationships we create to the food we eat. Still, somewhat mysteriously, it is often difficult to make the right choices for ourselves. We find ourselves hanging out with someone who leaves us feeling drained or choosing to eat fast food over a salad. We go through phases where we stop doing yoga or taking vitamins, even though we feel so much better when we do. Often we have no idea why we continue to make the less enlightened choice, but it is important that we inquire into ourselves to find out.
When we choose that which is not best for us, the truth can be that there is a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal. We may say it‚s because we don‚t have the time or the energy or the resources, but the real truth is that when we don‚t take care of ourselves we are falling prey to self-sabotage. Self-sabotage happens unconsciously, which is why it‚s so difficult to see that we are doing it. The important thing to realize is that this very part of us that resists our healing is the part that most needs our attention and love. Even as it appears to be working against us, if we can simply bring it into the light of our consciousness, it can become our greatest ally. It carries the information we need to move to the next level in our healing process.
When we recognize that we are not making healthy choices, we might even say out loud, „I am not taking care of myself.‰ Sometimes this is the jolt we need to wake up to what is actually happening. Next we can sit ourselves down in meditation, with a journal, or with a trusted friend to explore the matter more thoroughly. Just shining the light of our awareness on the source of our resistance is sometimes enough to dispel its power. At other times, further effort is required. Either way, we need not fear these parts that do not want to heal. We only need to take them under our wing and bring them with us into the light.
When I first started my counseling and therapy work I resolved to trust my training to the Universe and trust the client to bring to me what they needed for me to help them with, and to trust myself that what I did would lead to the most benevolent outcome for all concerned. I cannot remember it ever not working.
Of course I doubted often, and still look to be aware of my ego, it is part of being human.
What I am saying is if you love and are open and trust yourself and that the other person will show you what they need to be reflected back to them, then there is absolutely no reason to be afraid of what you might say to anyone. You will always do the right thing by them even if they get peeved, slam the door in your face, break down and cry their heart out, or get up and hug you and fall in love with you.
The power of love works miracles even if a person goes away and you never see them again. I have seen time and again the result of these miracles even if it is 20-30 years later. Love is never ever wasted. It is the truth and the proof of free energy.
You are love incarnate and so you can do anything. No longer any need to be afraid of ego. You have learned well how to be aware. It is a most beautiful safeguard and keeps us awake.
PRODUCT LABELING IS GOOD, PEOPLE LABELING IS NOT. The problem with labeling is that it dismisses a person's story. Labels demoralize and confine. Labels create action according to preconceived opinion. Activate your sense of curiosity and embrace diversity. Leave the labeling for the canned goods.
Don't force anything to happen ~ Let every piece fall into it's place as it should on it's own ~ Don't try to rush anything, because if it's meant to be, it will happen eventually ~ You might just end up ruining something by rushing it or trying to force it to happen ~ Let things happen naturally, and you'll notice how much more happier you'll be when they happen unexpectedly.
Assumptions are the death of a relationship. If you think you know what's going on inside someone else's head, think again. We imagine that love gives us the power to read one another's mind, when all we are really doing is reading our own. It's a great self-defense mechanism but no substitute for actual communication. The very best way to know what's really on someone's mind is also the riskiest: you have to ask them.
Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. The remarkable thing is that we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have - and that is our attitude. Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes."
Life's circumstances are not always what you might wish them to be. The pattern of life does not necessarily go as you plan.
Rather than wondering about or questioning the direction your life has taken, accept the fact that there is a path before you now. Shake off the ''why's'' and ''what if's'', and rid yourself of confusion. Whatever was - is in the past. Whatever is - is what's important. The past is a brief reflection. The future is yet to be realized. Today is here.
Walk your path one step at a time - with courage, faith, and determination. Keep your head up, and cast your dreams to the stars. Soon your steps will become firm and your footing will be solid again. A path that you never imagined will become the most comfortable direction you could have ever hoped to follow.
Keep your belief in yourself and walk into your new journey. You will find it magnificent, spectacular, and beyond your wildest imaginings.
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.
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Marjorie Hope Gross, A.A.S., C.P., C.P.LC.