The title of today’s entry is a quote from one of my father figures and favorite clients. He told me that he has followed this motto through his life and it has helped him develop stronger relationships and to protect himself from situations that may not be on the up and up.
Upon first hearing this, it seemed kind of rash, but when looking at the concept deeper, there is a great deal of sense to it. When we “hate” someone, that generally brings about a great deal of passion that can easily be turned into love or respect. Hate often involves being affected by someone or something so much that it drives us to action.
Think about someone you have “hated” before; if they didn’t matter to you, would you feel hate? Probably not; you’d feel ambivalence.
I’ve used this motto to help me be nicer to people that I initially “hated”, and focus on how to turn the relationship or experience into one of mutual respect and support.
Start hating! (wink)